Three Words That Make Relationships Better – Part V

October 18, 2012 by admin  
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Count on me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.
Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship.
It is the emotional glue that bonds people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends.
When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can count on me.

A beautiful mountain

I’ll be there:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night,
to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down
some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase

A beautiful view of the lake with mountains in the background

I’ll be there.
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give.
When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us.
We are renewed in love and friendship.
We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

A beautiful view of houses along the river

- hazel remedios

Five Finger Prayer

October 11, 2012 by admin  
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” Five Finger Prayer “

This is so neat. I had never heard this before.
This is beautiful – and it is surely worth making the 5 finger prayer a part of our lives.

1. Your thumb is nearest you.
So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you.
They are the easiest to remember.
To pray for our loved ones is, as C. S. Lewis once said, a “sweet duty.”

2. The next finger is the pointing finger.
Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal.
This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers.
They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right direction.
Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger.
It reminds us of our leaders.
Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators.
These people shape our nation and guide public opinion.
They need God’s guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger.
Surprising to many is the fact that this is our weakest finger, as any piano teacher will testify.
It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain.
They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger -
the smallest finger of all which is where
we should place ourselves in relation to God and others.
As the Bible says, “The least shall be the greatest among you.”
Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself.
By the time you have prayed for the other four groups,
your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.
fwd: vc mathew

Sharpen Your Axe

October 10, 2012 by admin  
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Once upon a time, there was a very strong Woodcutter. He asked for a job from a timber merchant and he got it. The pay was really good and so were the work conditions. For that reason the Woodcutter was determined to do his best. His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to work.

The first day, the woodcutter brought down 18 trees. The Boss was very much impressed and said, “Congratulations keep it up!” Very motivated by the words of the boss, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he only could bring down 15 trees. The third day he tried even harder, but he only could bring down 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing down less and less trees. “I must be losing my strength”, the woodcutter thought to himself. He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on. When was the last time you sharpened your Axe”? the boss asked.  I had no time to sharpen my Axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees.

The moral of the story :

Our lives are like that……. We sometimes get so busy that we don’t take time to sharpen the axe. In today’s world, it seems that everyone is busier than ever, but less happy than ever. Why is that? Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay sharp? There is nothing wrong with activity and hard work. But we should not get so busy that we neglect the truly important things in life, like our personal life, taking time to care for others, taking time to read, etc.

We all need time to relax, to think and meditate, to learn and grow. If we don’t take time to sharpen the axe, we will become dull and lose our Effectiveness.

- a n dass

Life’s little instruction book

October 2, 2012 by admin  
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Life's Little Instruction Book•         Have a firm handshake.
•         Look people in the eye.
•         Sing in the shower.
•         Own a great stereo system.
•         If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

•         Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.

•         Always accept an outstretched hand.
•         Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell  the difference.
•         Whistle.
•         Avoid sarcastic remarks.

•         Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.

•         Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
•         Lend only those books you never care to see again.
•         Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
•         When playing games with children, let them win.
•         Give people a second chance, but not a third.
•         Be romantic.
•         Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
•         Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
•         Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for your convenience, not the caller’s.
•         Be a good loser.
•         Be a good winner
•         Wave at the children on a school bus.

•        When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

•         Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
•         Keep it simple.
•         Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
•         Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
•         Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets
•         Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the one’s you did.
•         Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
•         Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
•         Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
•         Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
•         Once in a while, take the scenic route.

•         Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, ‘Someone who thinks you’re terrific.’

•         Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
•         Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
•         Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.

•         Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.

•         Make someone’s day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
•         Become someone’s hero.

•         Marry only for love.

•         Count your blessings.
•         Compliment the meal when you’re a guest in someone’s home.
•         Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.

•         Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

•         Don’t expect life to be fair.

- fwd: raymond dsouza

Boy donates film earnings to MC Sisters

October 1, 2012 by admin  
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Boy donates film earnings to MC SistersWest Bengal, August 29, 2012: When Akash Mukherjee wrote his first check recently, his hand trembled.

It was not just the presence of Sister Mary Prema, superior general of the Missionaries of Charity (MC), and his parents that made the 10-year-old nervous.

He wanted to “get it right” because he was gifting the entire amount – nearly 100,000 rupees (US$1,810) he received for playing the lead role in a film in Bengali language – to the charity group.

Sister Prema blessed, thanked and praised the fifth grader of the Jesuit-managed St. Xavier’s Primary School in Kolkata for the gift.

After accepting the check on August 27, the German nun accompanied him on “a grand tour” of her congregation’s headquarters, including Blessed Teresa’s room.

“So small! How did she live there?” the bespectacled boy blurted out after seeing the 5’x12’ room where the celebrated nun lived most of her life.

The only child of Manisha and Gora Mukherjee, Akash was born August 26, a birthday he shares with the Nobel laureate nun.

Akash’s association with the MCs started on his fifth birthday when his parents took him to Nirmal Hriday (Pure Heart), a home for the dying that Blessed Teresa started more than 60 years ago.

“We wanted him to grow up with a sense of awareness of the world around him and the importance of sharing and giving,” Akash’s mother Manisha explained.

Visiting MC homes on Akash’s birthday has become a tradition in the Mukherjee family. They take him to Shishu Bhavan (Children’s Home) where he cuts and shares his birthday cake, besides donating books, toys and clothes.

Akash said his mother always insists that he should give away what he is especially fond of.

He said he was surprised when the film company offered him remuneration for his acting. “I was happy just being a part of a movie,” he said.

When he got the money, he initially planned to spend it on games for himself and gifts for his parents.

Then, remembering that he shared his birthday gifts with Blessed Teresa’s children he decided to give the money to them.

“I would continue to give them whatever I get on my birthday in future,” he told with excitement in his voice. However, giving is hard, he added.

He said he did not understand why he should give his things to others when his parents first told him. “But now I love to do it because I want to see those children’s smiling faces,” he added.

Manisha said her son plays a child who overcomes his loneliness through the effort of all participants in the yet-to-be released film Anubhav-Ekta chheler goppo (Feelings: The Story of a Lonely Child).

She said Akash means “sky” in Bengali but it could also mean “endless” or “limitless.”

Akash’s vice-principal at St. Xavier’s, Soma Gomes, described him as a “very honest and courteous” boy with “humility beyond his years” and applauded Akash’s parents for instilling in him a concern for others.

She said the school has advised Akash’s parents to let Akash continue studies and take up acting during weekends and holidays.

His class teacher Elizabeth Gakhar said Akash has handled his studies and acting remarkably well, without dropping his grades.

Manisha said she wants Akash to take up acting when he is an adult. Akash, an admirer of footballer Cristiano Ronaldo, said acting was hard at first but he enjoyed it and had fun. He loves the outdoors and rushes out to play football whenever he can.

- ucan

Three Words That Make Relationships Better – Part II

September 29, 2012 by admin  
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~I understand you:

People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person
accepts and understands them.
Letting your spouse know – in so many little ways - that you understand them,
is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.

And this can apply to any relationship.

Three Words That Make Relationships Better – Part II
~I respect you:

Respect is another way of showing love.
Respect demonstrates that
another person is a true equal.
If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will
strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.
This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

Three Words That Make Relationships Better – Part II

- fwd: hazel remedios

Three Words That Make Relationships Better – Part I

September 28, 2012 by admin  
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Three Words That Make Relationships Better

Three-Word Phrases, can be tools to help develop every relationship.
There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.
Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.
When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop
new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships
that have soured.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

Three Words That Make Relationships Better

~Let me help:

Good friends see a need and then try to fill it.
When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it.
Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

Three Words That Make Relationships Better

- fwd: hazel remedios

Lamentations 3:22

September 21, 2012 by admin  
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Look up !

September 19, 2012 by admin  
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If you put a buzzard in a pen that is 6 feet by 8 feet
and is entirely open at the top,
the bird, in spite of its ability to fly,
will be an absolute prisoner.
The reason is that a buzzard always begins a flight
from the ground with a run of 10 to 12 feet.
Without space to run, as is its habit,
it will not even attempt to fly,
but will remain a prisoner for life
in a small jail with no top.

The ordinary bat that flies around at night,
a remarkable nimble creature in the air,
cannot take off from a level place.
If it is placed on the floor or flat ground,
all it can do is shuffle about helplessly
and, no doubt, painfully,
until it reaches some slight elevation
from which it can throw itself into the air.
Then, at once, it takes off like a flash.

A bumblebee, if dropped into an open tumbler,
will be there until it dies, unless it is taken out.
It never sees the means of escape at the top,
but persists in trying to find some way out
through the sides near the bottom.
It will seek a way where none exists,
until it completely destroys itself.


In many ways, we are like the buzzard, the bat, and the bumblebee.
We struggle about with all our problems and frustrations,
never realizing that all we have to do is look up!
That’s the answer, the escape route and the solution
to any problem!
Whether the problem is in your organisation,
family, social circle or personal life
- Just look up.

Sorrow looks back
Worry looks around
But faith looks up …
… and still keeps you hooked !!!

- fwd: menino martis

A 97 year old Doctor has this to say … – an eye opener

September 17, 2012 by admin  
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Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara

Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara

This article is 3 years old – Dr Shigeaki Hinohara turned 100 on 4th October 2011

A 97 year old Doctor has this to say…

At the age of 97 years and 4 months, Shigeaki Hinohara is one of the world’s longest-serving physicians and educators. Hinohara’s magic touch is legendary: Since 1941 he has been healing patients at St. Luke’s International HospitalinTokyoand teaching at St. Luke’s College of Nursing. After World War II, he envisioned a world-class hospital and college springing from the ruins of Tokyo; thanks to his pioneering spirit and business savvy, the doctor turned these institutions into the nation’s top medical facility and nursing school. Today he serves as chairman of the board of trustees at both organizations. Always willing to try new things, he has published around 150 books since his 75th birthday, including one “Living Long, Living Good” that has sold more than 1.2 million copies. As the founder of the New Elderly Movement, Hinohara encourages others to live a long and happy life, a quest in which no role model is better than the doctor himself.

Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara
Energy comes from feeling good, not from eating well or sleeping a lot.We all remember how as children, when we were having fun, we often forgot to eat or sleep. I believe that we can keep that attitude as adults, too. It’s best not to tire the body with too many rules such as lunchtime and bedtime.

All people who live longregardless of nationality, race or gender share one thing in common: None are overweight … For breakfast I drink coffee, a glass of milk and some orange juice with a tablespoon of olive oil in it. Olive oil is great for the arteries and keeps my skin healthy. Lunch is milk and a few cookies, or nothing when I am too busy to eat. I never get hungry because I focus on my work. Dinner is veggies, a bit of fish and rice, and, twice a week, 100 grams of lean meat.

Always plan ahead. My schedule book is already full until 2014, with lectures and my usual hospital work. In 2016 I’ll have some fun, though: I plan to attend the Tokyo Olympics!

There is no need to ever retire, but if one must, it should be a lot later than 65. The current retirement age was set at 65 half a century ago, when the average life-expectancy in Japan was 68 years and only 125 Japanese were over 100 years old. Today, Japanese women live to be around 86 and men 80, and we have 36,000 centenarians in our country. In 20 years we will have about 50,000 people over the age of 100…

Share what you know. I give 150 lectures a year, some for 100 elementary-school children, others for 4,500 business people. I usually speak for 60 to 90 minutes, standing, to stay strong.

When a doctor recommends you take a test or have some surgery, ask whether the doctor would suggest that his or her spouse or children go through such a procedure. Contrary to popular belief, doctors can’t cure everyone. So why cause unnecessary pain with surgery I think music and animal therapy can help more than most doctors imagine.

To stay healthy, always take the stairs and carry your own stuff. I take two stairs at a time, to get my muscles moving.

My inspiration is Robert Browning’s poem “Abt Vogler.” My father used to read it to me. It encourages us to make big art, not small scribbles. It says to try to draw a circle so huge that there is no way we can finish it while we are alive. All we see is an arch; the rest is beyond our vision but it is there in the distance.

Pain is mysterious, and having fun is the best way to forget it. If a child has a toothache, and you start playing a game together, he or she immediately forgets the pain. Hospitals must cater to the basic need of patients: We all want to have fun. At St. Luke’s we have music and animal therapies, and art classes.
Don’t be crazy about amassing material things. Remember: You don’t know when your number is up, and you can’t take it with you to the next place.
Hospitals must be designed and prepared for major disasters, and they must accept every patient who appears at their doors. We designed St.Luke’s so we can operate anywhere: in the basement, in the corridors, in the chapel. Most people thought I was crazy to prepare for a catastrophe, but on March 20, 1995, I was unfortunately proven right when members of the Aum Shinrikyu religious cult launched a terrorist attack in the Tokyosubway. We accepted 740 victims and in two hours figured out that it was sarin gas that had hit them. Sadly we lost one person, but we saved 739 lives.
Science alone can’t cure or help people. Science lumps us all together, but illness is individual. Each person is unique, and diseases are connected to their hearts. To know the illness and help people, we need liberal and visual arts, not just medical ones.
Life is filled with incidents. On March 31, 1970, when I was 59 years old, I boarded the Yodogo, a flight from Tokyo to Fukuoka. It was a beautiful sunny morning, and as Mount Fujicame into sight, the plane was hijacked by the Japanese Communist League-Red Army Faction. I spent the next four days handcuffed to my seat in 40-degree heat. As a doctor, I looked at it all as an experiment and was amazed at how the body slowed down in a crisis.
Find a role model and aim to achieve even more than they could ever do. My father went to the United States in 1900 to study atDuke University in North Carolina. He was a pioneer and one of my heroes. Later I found a few more life guides, and when I am stuck, I ask myself how they would deal with the problem.

It’s wonderful to live long. Until one is 60 years old, it is easy to work for one’s family and to achieve one’s goals. But in our later years, we should strive to contribute to society. Since the age of 65, I have worked as a volunteer. I still put in 18 hours seven days a week and love every minute of it.

- japantimes

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